3. Put-ups, non-put-downs – aims to eliminate behaviors that may offend, mock, minimize or attack others in the group or themselves. Belittleing might sound like, “Well, it probably doesn`t matter, but… or “It may sound stupid, but… 6. Emotions happen – recognizes that people may experience emotions such as injury, sadness, boredom or anger at some point in the group. An agreement in this area shows respect and opens the door for people to express their feelings. This resource is designed as a complement to Everyday Disciples: Covenant Disciple with youth. This contribution examines the value and need for confidentiality in youth and youth groups, as well as proposals for action in the event of a breach of confidentiality. Trust is equally important for youth and adults who participate in federal youth. However, in the United States, persons under the age of 18 are not considered legal adults, which is why an adult (considered by his or her age to have more power and responsibility) must be aware of certain situations in which trust must be broken. Young people under the age of 18 are considered minors in the United States and adults 18 years of age or older must both build trust in young people and make it clear that certain behaviours or ideas must be shared outside the group. 5.
Respectful listening – involves the expectation that the group will listen carefully to someone who shares and that only one person will speak at a time. I`m sure it`s just that I`m getting older than I see it, but it seems that even good kids these days are finding it harder and harder to stay away from compromising situations. Every time we go to see our parents, when we hear something, we quickly suggested that “you can`t open up to the youth priest — he`ll just squeak.” If we are sitting on information about a student doing illegal or dangerous activities, it could be worse. The concept of confidentiality agreed within the group should also extend to social media. Social media can be a valuable tool for youth groups that provide additional space for registration and an additional level of responsibility. The code of silence a student in our child welfare department faced severe depression and made extremely unhealthy decisions. Some of his close friends in the ministry knew this, but their tacit code of silence prevented them from telling anyone until he attempted suicide. Fortunately, he survived and is now receiving professional attention; But it could have been absolutely tragic. None of his friends were ready to go ahead because no one wanted to be the rat. Everyday Disciples: Covenant Discipleship With Youth by Chris Wilterdink Resources Pastors, youth leaders and youth groups with information and planning materials related to Covenant Discipleship and accountability practices.